Here is an interesting observation. If you are an introvert
and seek to avoid the spotlight, you might try to avoid contact. But in doing
so, you might inadvertently invite attention.
Let's imagine this situation:
You walk into a meeting a few minutes late. This makes you
feel awkward, so you try to slip in quietly and take a seat. You think nobody
has noticed you, but in fact, others have. By either acknowledging or ignoring
you, they are, in some way, putting the spotlight on you. They expect you to
understand this subtly.
Instead of trying to blend in, if you make a statement like,
"Hey, sorry I'm late, but here I am. What did I miss?", the onus is
now on others to respond. The spotlight shifts to them instead of you.
A dominant person is one that puts the spotlight on others, not one that keeps the spotlight on oneself.
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